mandarmani trip

One Candle, One Beach, One Gang

Two years ago, I packed up a life and moved.

Howrah to Newtown. It sounds simple when you say it like that. A change of address. But anyone who has left a neighbourhood they have known for years will tell you what that sentence actually means. It means saying goodbye to the familiar disorder of streets you navigated by instinct. The corner chai stall that knew your order. The weight of years settled into walls and lanes and faces.

Newtown was clean. Planned. Wide roads, new buildings, a silence I had not asked for. And for a while, you quietly wonder if you made the right call.

Then, slowly, a society begins to reveal itself. Faces at the elevator become names. Names become conversations. And conversations, over two years of festivals and casual evenings and the ordinary overlaps of life in shared spaces, become something you did not expect to find so quickly.

They become people.

Niladri and Mohita were among the first.

So when March brought a phone call with an invite – a destination birthday at Mandarmani, 10th of May, their daughter Trishika turning one – it was not really a decision. It was a date to mark in the calendar.

Six families from the society. Niladri had booked a Force Traveller for the group. We went in our own car because we travel with Rocky, our cat, who has strong opinions about shared transport, and we have learned not to argue with him.

My wife Sushma and my son Neel shared the wheel, fifty-fifty.

We started on a Sunday morning. The usual Kolkata traffic held us till Kolaghat, where we stopped at Anand restaurant, just opposite the iconic Sher-E-Punjab. There is something about a highway break and a plate of aloo parathas with omelette that feels disproportionately satisfying. The city falls away. The body relaxes. You remember that you are, in fact, going somewhere.

We reached Mandarmani ahead of the Force Traveller. A stop along the way for tender coconut. Less than two and a half hours in total. The sea was already visible when we checked in at Aqua Marina Drive Inn.

Lunch was the kind that ruins you for ordinary food for a few days. Fish so fresh it tasted like the sea had let it go reluctantly. Mutton that had been given the time it deserved, falling apart, deeply flavoured, exactly right. Desserts that made the table go briefly quiet.

After that, I did what any sensible person does after a meal like that. I went to my room, stretched out, and watched IPL while the rest of the group claimed the swimming pool with the enthusiasm of people who had earned it. My daughter and Neel were in their elements. The children were in theirs. No regrets on my end.

Then came the photographers. Two, maybe three hours of shooting. Families arranged and rearranged. The children endured it with varying degrees of patience. Little Trishika, the birthday girl herself, sat on the grass in her colourful dress looking at the world with the serene curiosity of someone entirely unbothered by the occasion being thrown in her honour.

She had no idea what was coming.

The cake cutting was on the beach itself.

If you look at the photograph from that night, you will understand why I use the words “out of this world.” A red carpet laid on the sand, lined with fairy lights on both sides. The entire group assembled in the dark. The ocean somewhere behind them, invisible but present, the sound of it underneath everything. Niladri and Mohita in the centre with Trishika, dressed in red, the word ONE glowing in front of them.

It was the kind of scene that makes you feel the occasion even if you are standing at the edges of it.

But Trishika had reached her limit.

One year old, in a gorgeous dress, on a beach, under lights, surrounded by twenty-five people pointing cameras at her. She had cooperated for as long as any reasonable one-year-old could be expected to cooperate. And so she made her decision, as all honest people eventually do.

She ate the cake.

Not symbolically. Not in the polite, ceremonial way. She committed. While the adults orchestrated and the photographers angled and everyone waited for the perfect moment, Trishika simply kept eating with the unbothered focus of someone who had correctly identified the only thing on the beach that mattered.

It was the funniest and truest moment of the entire weekend.

The party after was everything a good night should be. Fabulous food. Laughter that built on itself. Conversations that started with politics, wandered into life, touched on spirituality, and landed somewhere past eleven at the conclusion that life is ultimately a maya. Which is either very deep or very funny at that hour. Probably both.

We got back to our rooms close to midnight. I turned on the TV in time for the final few deliveries of MI versus RCB. RCB won on the last ball. The kind of finish that felt almost scripted, as if even cricket had decided to match the mood of the evening.

Next morning, breakfast, goodbyes that were not quite goodbyes, and then the drive back.

We stopped at Sher-E-Punjab on the return, the full circle of it pleasing in the way small symmetries always are. And somewhere on that highway, with the weekend behind us and home still a couple of hours ahead, Neel decided that time was a suggestion. There was a particular stretch where the overtaking got a little too adventurous for my comfort.

I gave him a good mouthful. He is my son. He took it well. That too is the mark of something, though I am not sure it is a virtue.

We were home by four.

I have lived in Newtown for two years now. The roads are still cleaner than anything I grew up with. The silence is something I have made a kind of peace with. But what I did not anticipate, and what two years have quietly delivered, is this: people who will plan a beach birthday for a one-year-old with fairy lights and a red carpet on the sand, who will debate the nature of existence past midnight, who will fill a Force Traveller and drive three hours just to celebrate together.

That is not something a new society owes you. That is something you have to be lucky enough to find.

The photographs from that night will stay with me. The one of my family on the beach – the four of us, the sea behind, the sand under our feet. The one of Neel and his sister flexing at the water’s edge, twenty-one and boundless and not a care in the world. The red carpet and the fairy lights and twenty-five people standing in the dark around a little girl who just wanted her cake.

We were lucky. We are lucky.

Happy birthday, Trishika. May every year bring you more of what matters. And may you always, always go for the cake.

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