Resilience amidst adversity and tragedy

Most of the time it’s not your fault.

Most of the time you are not in control.

It’s up to you how you “react“ because that’s in your control!

Did we have any control over the pandemic? No.

Many people lost their lives! I personally went through multiple tragedies in the last 18 months! And I am sure millions across the globe went through similar emotions. Now it’s up to us to treat this as an excuse and blame our luck for anything wrong hereafter or you turn around with resilience to accept the bitter truth of fact and rebuild your life!

Lies we have been taught include that you do this and your life will be set! The fact is life is never set! As soon as you breathe easy, something will or might happen to change your life! Similarly, any tragedy is not the end of the world! You being alive is the biggest gift! Make use of it! Accept reality and get up and get going!

One of the biggest problems that I see people having is that they face tremendous difficulty to ask for help! The world is filled with good people and even when some remain silent just come forward and ask and you will see many hands coming forward to support you. 

Nothing is permanent! We move on! Even after tremendous tragedy, I have seen people recover and find joy in life! You can’t stop living! You can’t stop breathing! We need to remember one thing that till we are alive we are supposed to work towards happiness! 

When I was 10 years old, a cousin of mine who was 18 at that time passed away due to an accident! The lives of my uncle and aunt changed forever! For months they remained silent! I remember staying with them for more than a month at their house! Hardly anyone spoke but they started recovering. Naturally, life was never the same again but then their elder son got married and smiles were back in the family! Does that mean we didn’t remember our cousin on that day? Yes, we did remember him and still remember him but we learned to live without him. Then my nephew was born and normalcy returned!

God has strange ways to remind us who is the boss! The more you believe you are in control, the more he will show you that you have nothing in control!

If you look at social media you will feel everyone is having a cool life! Everyone is getting fantastic returns in the stock market! Everyone is building a start-up and everyone is successful and filled up with new business orders! But the fact is most are showing off! Social media is a great place to mask yourself! You can say anything and everything and become an influencer! You will find absolutely irrelevant posts and tweets and copycats having more than 50,000 followers! And you are thinking, “wow” how did he do that? But why are you thinking that way? Will your life change with that thinking? You need to love yourself and try to live a better life than yesterday! Be resilient and learn to live life on your terms! Work on something that makes you happy and try to gain freedom! Time is the biggest leverage! And it’s up to you how you utilise it!

Many times I have seen people trying to control others! Frankly, you can‘t! Parents trying to control their kids are the worst offenders because the seeds are sown right there! Learn to make your kids independent! Don’t make decisions on their behalf but when they ask, help them and guide them! They will ask for guidance only when they know that you don’t control them. It’s the same in a professional set up too! You can’t control your team members! You can only inspire them and guide them! If the alignment is not there then part ways but never try to control! It will always give disastrous results!

The problems that you have today will vanish tomorrow but can reoccur the day after tomorrow! But don’t let the anxiousness of tomorrow take away your happiness of today! Always bring your whole self to work and at home! People mix up things too much! And this work-from-home scenario has actually done more harm for many of the individuals! If you don’t have a caring support system at home then it can lead to a situation where you are always at home and always at work and finally, you are not satisfied anywhere!

You need to take the call what is best for you! But first, you have to accept the problem! When acceptance happens you will find a way to the solution.

The world is abundant with love and joy and you just need to tell yourself that you will live a life of fulfillment! It’s all inside you, it’s your belief that matters! 

If you lie to yourself, it means you are denying the problem, and till you are in a state of denial nothing gonna change! You will always be frustrated because you are yet to find out your “why”. 

I have seen people telling me that if I get X amount of money from next month I will be happy. Two problems:

First, that is not gonna happen.

Second, what are you going to do to make that happen!

If you believe in the second option then you will find a way for additional ethical income. As I said earlier the world is filled with opportunities but it’s up to you to go for it. Of course, it means you have to work doubly hard to reach there! 

Nothing will come easily! 

You need to pick up new skills to make yourself more worthwhile. That requires hard work! But you can do it! If you believe in yourself I am very sure you can achieve it!

Make your mind strong enough to face adversity and build your power of resilience so that you don’t break down when things go against you! God has something for everyone! But it’s upon us to find it and live a life of fulfillment and joy!

Are you ready?

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